Lance's love life

My friend Lance has no love life. There's nothing wrong with this, but the other day we decided we need to figure out why he has no love life. The main reasons for Lance's lack of love are:

• Lance is afraid
• Lance needs help understanding girls

Lance is afraid. Not exactly afraid of girls, but he's afraid of being rejected. There's a girl who comes into work everyday and asks to use the phone. Let's call her Kate. Lance likes Kate, but all he will say to her is, "Sure, you can use the phone", when he should be saying, "Hey, what's your name? I'm Lance. We should go out sometime." If he wasn't so afraid of being rejected, or afraid that people will think he's weird, he could have already been out with the girl and have an established relationship.

Lance needs help understanding girls. The relationships he's been in only last a couple of months before the girl finally breaks it off. If Lance understood girls better, maybe he could realize their intentions before they verbally communicate them to him. There was the one time Lance broke up with a girl because she lacked responsibility, but if he would've taken the time to understand why she was responsible...maybe he could've made their relationship work.

If Lance was more like the characters in the book 'Tess of the d'Ubervilles', he could start learning more about Kate by stalking her (but not in a scary, obsessed way). That would be useful in understanding her, which could lead to the establishment of a better love life for him.